Phil Cubeta’s House Rules

For Our Guests in Phil’s Virtual Home

• Please come prepared, if pre-work is suggested in the invitation
• Listen to understand, not to object or win an argument
• Speak truth in kindness
• Attack positions, not persons
• Avoid ad hominins (attacking an idea by attacking the kind of person who holds it)
• Seek to understand before seeking to be understood
• If triggered, ask forgiveness
• Forgive as you hope to be forgiven
• Respect confidences
• Forgive our dog, Lucy, if she barks during our call

For Phil as Host

• To create a welcoming space for thoughtful differences of opinion
• To welcome all professions and identities who come in civic friendship to achieve shared understanding with an eye to public benefit
• To “hold the space” and cordially disinvite any who might disrupt the well-being of the group.

Good Manners for Participants after Our Gathering

• Please don’t quote our conversations with attribution of specific views to specific participants unless you ask permission from that participant first.
• In other words, respect confidences and don’t embarrass anyone by quoting out of context and without permission.