Phil Cubeta’s House Rules

House Rules

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For you as a guest

Seek to understand before seeking to be understood
Bring your full attention and your best self
Avoid ad hominems (attacking an idea by attacking the kind of person who holds it)
If triggered, ask forgiveness
Forgive as you hope to be forgiven

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For me as your host

To create a welcoming space for thoughtful differences of opinion
To welcome professionals of diverse identities who come in civic friendship to achieve shared understanding with an eye to public benefit

From conversations come courses

By participating here, you acknowledge that I will create courses and other presentations from the wisdom gleaned from discussions and submissions.

I will not cite participants by name. I may say, “One participant in the group noted….” I will not say, “Jane Jones noted.”

The rationale is that social media abound in strangers making wounding remarks. If anyone gets called out, it can only be me.

Good manners after our gathering

Please don’t quote our conversations with attribution of specific views to specific participants unless you ask permission from that participant first.

In other words, respect confidences and don’t embarrass anyone by quoting out of context and without permission.